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It happens to most of us sometime. One moment life is sweet and in the next breath it’s all dullness and disappointment. Whether they creep up on you, or arrive with a crisis, those big questions about who you are, where you fit in and the meaning of life can occupy a lot of attention.
How you feel about yourself and your life can make all the difference to the opportunities that open up for you. Both personally and professionally your sense of well being matters.
Developing a sense of personal identity is often thought of as one of the major jobs of a teenager. Getting to grips with your own values and goals, distinct from the hopes of your parents, your school, your friends can be a demanding exercise.
“Who am I” is a recurring question, not only in adolescence, but as you go through all sorts of changes in your life. It’s part of every major career choice and every big relationship decision. It’s as every day as how you wear your hair and what you call your self. It’s as puzzling as what you really want from life and as exciting as what makes you happy.
Being alone might be a pleasure or a trap for you. Being close to other people might be satisfying or suffocating. Finding a balance between yourself and others sounds simple, but is it easy for you?
How readily you trust people and how alert you are to the potential for being let down are part of how you see the world. Your attitude about this shapes the experiences you have.
This section of the web site offers a chance to consider who you are choosing to be, and how satisfied you are with your choices. The potential range of topics here is enormous.
- Managing your feelings : Managing your feelings can be one of the most difficult things to do. Its also one of the most useful ways to give yourself more choices. When you let your feelings run you, you often limit your options. A high voltage emotional response often results in consequences you’d rather avoid. And maybe those close to you would rather avoid those consequences too.
- The meaning of life: So what’s it all about? Almost everyone spends some time trying to figure out what it takes to make sense of life. Is it religion? Is it knowledge? Is it love, or children or work or purpose or money or politics or friendships? Is it happiness?
- What makes you you? You do it all the time. Every time you open your mouth, every action you take, you are continually making choices about who you are. Your identity takes in everything from the values you live to your choice of lipstick. You can’t choose everything about your identity. Your family, your culture, your genetic stamp all contribute to making you who you are. It can take a while to make sense of what those things mean for you.